The Terrible Two's (and a half)

So Avery and Ella have reached the terrible twos and a halfs, and are really trying to wear me down. This has gotta be the most difficult stage so far in raising twins. I would take infant twins, heck infant quads over this!They have become so opinionated, and know exactly what they want to wear making dressing in the morning a challenge. Ella insists on her "Florida outfit" A cute shirt and leggings set we got for our trip south which is not quite seasonally appropriate now that we are home, so I either have to hide it or let her wear it as her undergarment. Avery is very insistent upon what shoes she wears, which always makes leaving the house a disaster. If there is a foot of snow on the ground she wants to wear the sandals, when its nice and sunny out she wants her snow boots, often times when we are heading to gymnastics it is my heels that she sets her heart on. Sometimes I wonder if they just like to be difficult, but than I remember they are really just trying to assert their independence. Independent they have become- wanting to dress themselves, pick out their own food, brush their own hair, wash their own faces, and walk on their own, no more strollers, or even holding hands. Except when they don't want to be independent anymore and we are 5 blocks from home on a walk and they decide they don't want to walk any more but want to be carried, at the same time, while I'm pushing Addie in her stroller. Transitions have also become a bit of a nightmare. They are excited about going out for a change scenery whether its to their music class, the Playspace, a friends house, the gym, but then fight me getting into their car seats! The really hard part is when its time to leave our fun destination. Ideally, I would say "OK girls time to go." And they would gladly come to me, put on their coats and shoes, and follow my lead as we head for the door. This has not been the case for awhile. Instead they look at me, say "no" and either carry on playing or run away, in opposite directions. I have now taken to bringing a snack or something else to lure them to the car, but really wish they would just listen as it would make things a heck of a lot easier. They certainly seem to enjoy giving me a run for my money recently, but also can't bear to be without me. Separation anxiety has reached an all time high. Avery especially, has a very difficult time when I leave her, and cries as soon as a sitter shows up, or we pull into the parking lot at the gym. Maybe I should be flattered that she likes me so much and can't stand the thought of me leaving her for an hour or two, but really it just makes things more difficult. They definitely have their sweet moments when they tell me they love me, make beautiful artwork for me, cuddle on my lap, hug their baby sister- but all in all please tell me the threes will be easier!